An Example Using the Identity Model
Take this example of a girl from Chennai, Tamil Nadu, in south India whose family moved to work with a mission based in Delhi when she was 4 years old. Before leaving Chennai she mirrored the local community and culture—she was in every way a Tamilian.
In Delhi she found it very tough. At school as she was regarded as an outsider (from the south)—language, food, culture and ethnicity were all different in Delhi–she even experienced color racism at school. She had to learn Hindi, acquire a taste for new foods, and make new friends—and for some time she felt like a foreigner.
After several years in Delhi she made many friends, learned the language and customs and began to see herself more as a cosmopolitan Delhi-ite than a Tamilian; her roots were increasingly in Delhi and she felt adopted and at home in the Delhi community.
After finishing school she returned to Tamil Nadu for college; it was very tough, for although she looked Tamilian, she felt more like a Delhi-ite. She could speak Tamil, but her Hindi was better; she preferred north Indian food to idli-dosai; her social network, friends, and her roots were in Delhi, [and] she found herself questioned and not accepted by the more traditional and conservative students and staff—she had returned to her parents’ place but had become a hidden immigrant.
Another challenge for TCKs is that they may be changing boxes as their mobility takes them from one cultural community or environment to another. Depending on their circumstances, some TCKs never know what it is to live in either the Foreigner or Mirror boxes where identities are relatively clear but may always be in one of the more ambiguous boxes of the Hidden Immigrant or Adopted. The reality of the challenges many TCKs face begins to grow!
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This example comes from Educare, a ministry of WEC International, September 2007 issue.
D. Pollock & Van Reken & M. Pollock, Third Culture Kids, Growing Up Among Worlds, Nicholas Brealey Publishing, c. 2017. (Chart c.2006 by Ruth VanReken