Family Education Plan

By Sharon Haag

We believe when parents with dependent children are called into ministry, the whole family is called. The model of healthy family relationships can communicate biblical principles even when language barriers prevent verbal communication. Children can enhance your ministry–and your ministry situation can enhance the development and growth of your children.

Schooling Options

The schooling options you choose for your children play a major role in whom they become, “educating” them in areas far beyond the academics. Each option has unique strengths and benefits, and the choices you make require as much prayer and wisdom as any other ministry-related decision.

At different times in a family’s ministry responsibilities and at different ages or transition periods, different schooling options may be more helpful in a child’s development. Remaining open to reevaluating options and never saying “Never!” can result in more comprehensive preparation for life.  

Home teaching has many opportunities to impart family values and the flexibility to meet individual learning and family needs. Using national schools helps children quickly learn the local language and build relationships in the community. Small, multigrade mission schools provide homey atmospheres for developing strong friendships and learning to be productive members of groups.

Larger school settings often provide instruction or mentorship in special ability areas as well as “halfway steps” to cultural adjustment in the passport country. Attending a secular school can develop strength for standing firm and can be a training ground for becoming “salt and light” in the world. Any school setting helps children learn to relate to authority figures other than their parents—a key skill in the world of work.

Every schooling option provides richness in ways others cannot. No one schooling option is broad enough to encourage development of all the skills, abilities, and attitudes you will want your children to acquire to be ready to live independently when that time comes. This is especially true if your children spend most of their growing up years in an isolated setting overseas and you want them to be prepared to live successfully one day in your home country. Above all, look for comprehensiveness and balance over your children’s entire school career.

Planning Ahead

Many families facing schooling choices have been challenged and encouraged by developing a family educational plan. This helps them focus on the long-term values and goals they have for their children. It helps them to be aware of and take advantage of the different schooling options that will support them in fostering this broad range of skills, attitudes, and values

Getting caught up in day-to-day “survival” and just getting through the current year can make it easy to lose sight of long-term goals, to miss out on addressing some of the most important areas in which children need to develop. The family educational plan can help you keep broad, long-term goals in view.

You may find it helpful to work through this process for your family. First, list goals you have for your children. Which skills, attitudes, and abilities do you want your children to develop, both to live richly in the overseas setting and to take with them when they graduate and move out on their own, probably in their passport country?1

These are some of the values/goals parents have listed:







Second, think through how different schooling options might be particularly strong or weak in encouraging growth toward the goals you’ve listed. Third, use a chart like the one below to plot what you anticipate the circumstances of your lives might be during your children’s schooling years.

Directions for completing the chart below:

Family Education Plan ChartDownload

Fillable Family Education Plan FormDownload

Issues to consider:

Early years in a ministry setting are the best time for children to learn the national language and build relationships in the culture. Also, if they will be living away from their parents later on, it helps them feel more involved in the ministry if they know the people their parents are ministering to and understand what their lives are like.


Research on hundreds of adult TCKs from many agencies showed that those who felt they were involved in their parents’ ministries had better life satisfaction as adults. Further, the research showed that living at boarding schools was not a significant factor in relation to later life satisfaction. Of far more significance was the quality of a child’s relationship with his parents.


The teen years are key in the process of identity development. Many families find that national schools or isolation from home-country peers becomes inappropriate at this time if they want their children to identify themselves as citizens of their passport country as adults. Building close relationships with a variety of adults helps teens “separate” from their parents and encourages them to claim faith-based beliefs and values as their own as they see them modeled in other adults they admire.

Home Leaves

Take careful note of home years during a child’s schooling career and the age/grade levels at which they fall. What goals need to be and can be best addressed during home leave (what goals cannot be addressed nearly as well in the overseas setting)? Many TCKs find the middle school/early-secondary-school years the most difficult for adjustment in passport-country school settings. What can be done to diminish those difficulties? (e.g., reminding them of a history of successful adjustments during earlier home leaves; helping children build strong friendships in that setting; selecting the school setting or option with special care; timing home leaves differently for more vulnerable children).


Pay special attention to the last year of secondary school and first year of college. Most TCKs want to spend their last year where their friends are and to graduate with them. They also seem to need easy access to strong parental-type support during the first year of college. It may not be possible for families to time home leaves to meet these needs/desires for each of their children. What can be done to prepare them to make this transition without your physical presence? (e.g., build relationships during earlier home leaves with families whose values you share and who could “adopt” your children if you’re not there; allow your child to spend the summer before the final year living with a family in your home country where he or she could hold a job, open a bank account, live on a budget, get a driver’s license—i.e., practice many of the independent living skills which will be needed for that transition).

Every situation is different, and every child is different. What one family chooses may not be the best for another family. What a comfort to know He promises us wisdom but doesn’t expect perfection of us. He is able to take both good and bad decisions and use them to help us grow as a family so we may also serve Him more effectively as a family.

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